Poison- to have a harmful effect, lethal,
Most all horse owners do it no matter if they’re skilled or novice, but it’s the novice ones I really worry about these days, especially those of middle age like me.
It usually happens like this…insert name bought some small acreage, always wanted a horse so went to the local horse trader, auction, rescue group, craig’s list….you get what I mean and for some @%$# (bad word) reason brings home a cute 2 year old that someone manages to get a halter on. Never mind the fact that insert name hasn’t been on a horse in 15-30 years, ok, maybe lessons, maybe. Insert name at first has fun feeding, mucking, grooming, but what about cantering off into the sunset? Then it hits them square between their dreamy eyes as they realize they can’t ride the horse as they dreamed because….IT’S GREEN AND HAS NEVER BEEN RIDDEN! They start treating the horse like a big dog, a big expensive dog that poops all over and needs to be fed and mucked up after no matter what the weather is and it’s getting big and pushy sometimes scaring you. Something may go wrong like colic, hoof issues, injuries and now there’s big vet bills because your big Fido got scared of a plastic bag that flew thru the pasture and he flew thru the fencing. Didn’t expect that did you because you thought horses were big, strong and brave like in the movies. Ok I’m getting carried away but it true and this is where the heartbreaking part comes in, insert name comes to the decision to give up and sell, give away or auction the horse they did all this for. It happens all the time and far too much. They picked their poison and usually they and the horse gets hurt along the way. It’s why the saying “green on green makes black and blue” exists.
And why am on my high horse about this you may ask? I did it, yes I did just that except he was 1 1/2 yrs not 2 and hadn’t even been castrated and some were known to be scared of him. Hah! So I out did most of you, not that that’s a good thing. In a nutshell I had taken lessons for a year, he was owned by a friend who just didn’t have time for him, I was studying Parelli, he was lonely (and crazy) I needed a new Parelli case study, so she let me use him. Luckily in this trial period I was surrounded by my trainer and barn friends whom were all knowledgeable and supportive of my adventure. We did ground work only for a while, mind you just getting the halter on him took about 30 mins and you had to check to make sure all your fingers were still attached when done with this usually minor of tasks. I once showed up to find the guy who mucked the stalls walking around with his head wrapped in a bandage, yep the guilty party was Cooper whom was offended by said mucker in his stall, Oy! Anyway things progressed, he was a fast learner, I was determined, yada yada we became a couple. As fate would have it enter stage right Joel Means the answer to our prayers and we became a couple, hmm isn’t that one too many? He was perfect for us and so we married him, I mean I married him…lucky for Cooper.
So what’s your point Mrs. Hypocrite with all this story telling? Well I didn’t purchase Cooper until I knew I had some skills and training under my belt and ok I married a horseman to cinch the deal. I have 24-7 support and training and study all things horsey. As Pat Parelli says you have to take the time it takes and believe me it takes a lot of time, especially w/ a green horse. I’m not gonna tell you it wasn’t scary, he was the first horse I started but because I took the time to do it the right way with the support it worked. Mind you there are still some knee knocking events and I still have to get out of my comfort zone so we can progress. I have to put it out of my mind that older bones heal slower than younger ones, but it was a commitment I made and love. He absolutely changed my life and I learned through him how to be a better human. Owning a horse to me is a lifetime, 24-7 commitment, yes it can get in the way of stuff you want to do and travel plans, money in the bank, etc, I want all new horse owners or those even contemplating owning a horse to know this. I have seen and been told of so many mismatched owner-horse horror stories and usually it starts with older aged, well intentioned people getting young and or green horses. No matter who you are or how experienced a rider is, it can always be risky. Horses are decision making, pray animals. You are a decision making, predator and sometimes together each makes their own decision at the same time and you’re going to be the one that leaves the saddle and hits the ground. Parelli once said of horse ownership that with in the first 5 years eighty percent of owners get rid of the horse and with in the next 5 years 80 percent of those left drop out. So new horse owners I beg of you for the sake of your dreams, body parts and for the sake of the horse, please consider a wise, older horse with lots of trail/riding experience. Think of it like this, with your finances, health and medical advice we would all want reach out to a wise, experienced professional. One that’s been there and done that. Do this as well with the choice of your horse, because if not it could very well put you in the position of putting your finances, health and medical condition in jeopardy.